What if our society worked to raise men, instead of just boys?
What if boys were also given truly positive role models for what to try to become and were allowed to be boys?
Coming from a position of the generally “nice guy,” you know, the one that finishes last all the time, I know having to sort all of this out relatively alone and without any reference sucks.
Where I am right now highly esteems sports across the board so I will be referencing that since I am somewhat lazy like that. Imagine being a boy in such a world that focuses on sports of all sorts for males: football, basketball, baseball, hockey. All the while going through a school system that ends up having “introduce a girl to engineering,” “women in STEM,” etc. (interestingly no one does a “introduce a boy to art/dance/reading” the more female dominated side) programming, girls being the leaders of various organizations because of wanting to empower them/they can do it since the boys are too busy being preened for sports. All of this, it would seem, begins to tell the boy(s) that they are not really useful for anything except for sports and/or playing video games.
Then, look at our sports figures and video games; I challenge you to find positive role models. Mix this with being in a single-parent home for a good portion of boys: I foresee some issues in the future especially if the boy does not fit the mold of being a good all-around athlete. That would leave video games as the main place to learn about things which, I think, most everyone generally agrees probably is not the best place to go. Where else do they have though? Boy Scouts is losing membership, (2014 annual report claims 885,000 boys 11-17, 2015 claims 840,654 while back in 1997 there was over 1 million ) and, well, there is no other program specifically targeted at boys that I can think of or really find from a brief online search. There are combined programs yes but, I am willing to bet that those programs are going to generally be led and geared towards girls still. Yet, there seems to be some confusion as to why boys are not growing up, participating in society and in general, not seeming to be adjusting well. Perhaps teaching to the whole boy just like we try to teach to the whole girl could be beneficial?