This is seriously just the second half of my draft, at 1,000 words total so far it’s a bit on the long side so I thought I should try to spread this whole system out a tad. So continuing from the first part, found just before this one.
One can begin to see that children in some way, understand this work required for a caring relationship, those little drawings and gifts that children early on attempt to make for their parents as an example. There is an understanding and a socialization that caring requires certain work and that gifts are an appropriate way of showing and promoting caring. Then children start interacting with others.
When this interaction starts they are again taught that caring is important, they learn to show friendship, trust, make gifts for each other etc. etc. etc. They learn to care about the other children and adults in their community and identifying them. For a long time this is about as far as one would necessarily have to go in raising a child, but we live in a different world now which has different requirements: the children begin schooling.
Now, in broader respects children are sent to school and learn to identify their nation, they learn to identify others that are in some way related to them such as other English people, other French people, other people who are members of their extended community. They learn they have to care for these peers in some form, they have favorites of course but they are all their own in a way and fellows.
If it stopped here (as it used to), we have serious and bad consequences: slavery, terribly devastating wars, brutality on scales we do not usually see, cannot fully comprehend nor imagine. If one learns to only identify their “kind” their “nation” and not anything more it becomes really easy to view others as less than human and one’s own kind as higher. At this point though it becomes hard to consider “care,” it’s just not a concept that lends itself to easily being expanded and recognized at this point. This is where those virtues that children have been taught and socialized with come in handy.
Consider the virtues, generally they are things that relate to being a good person, good citizen/member of a community or anything similar to that. Also it is generally assumed it seems that you cannot really be a good person in a vacuum. Think about a good person though what is it you think of? Not just a charitable, benevolent person that’s just a nice guy. But they have a personality there is something memorable to them and you want to be with them, they are simply fun people to be with. Aristotle deals with this a bit more specifically, for example when he talks of humor. Someone who can’t tell or at least take jokes is not nearly as easy to care for or be around to have a relationship with. They also know how and when to put in the proper efforts for relationships, if they make mistakes even.
Humans do make mistakes, simply. Even this incredibly good person who you spend time with, notice another thing though: when this person makes a mistake, you are “just” to them through being understanding of their mistake and their situation, you care back to them and show it through appropriate gifts etc and being understanding and supportive etc. when the good person makes a mistake. You are being impartial with regards to yourself, say the good person forgot something to show that they care for you at an appropriate time (birthday for example I guess). You remain impartial and understand that they had other duties or things to worry about and you are fair to them through acknowledging they make mistakes and cannot possibly do everything at once, unless of course you are hanging out with God on a regular basis, that is a slightly different story. You care enough about your relationship and your friend that you are willing to be fair to mistakes made by either party. Rationality comes in for this also.